Thursday, July 29, 2010

Moral Support

So, I'm starting to get daily emails from my dad asking how the prospects look? I almost cracked up when I read the email he wrote. I can honestly say that my dad is getting really into the process, which honestly surprised me. Although, he always follows up the conversation with a safety tip. For example, the last guy that got my number and kept calling, my dad's solution: next time get the guy's number and hit *87 on your phone and when you dial it will show as restricted. I love my dad's advice, but blocking my number- I feel like that is a little extreme.

Phone Stalking

Our date ends at about 8 p.m. I get back to my house and settle in with a nice dessert (yeah I guess he made me a little self conscious with all of his talk about his 600 calorie diet that I didn't eat that much) and watching the Bacheloertte. Life is good!

Well, it's almost 9 p.m. (same night) and I get a voicemail asking if I would want to watch Entourage at his place and 'crack' open a bottle of wine. I don't want to answer, so I just call him back in the morning on my way to work and tell him it wouldn't work out. Then Wednesday, while I'm walking with my sister probably going into detail about my date I get a voicemail from him asking if I wanted to grill out with his brother and him. Yikes, little too much! He calls me AGAIN the following Monday to hang out and I say I already had plans and then he asks my plans for the rest of the week. I had to let him down easy and just say that I had a nice time with him, but that it would be best if we were just friends. I think he got the hint though. I had too! First of all I would want someone to do the same for me if they were not feeling it on their end, I mean I wouldn't want either of us to waste our time with someone who is not fully into it.

So I continue my quest...


Upon arriving S called me and said he was waiting for me at the bar and said he was wearing a yellow polo. I walked inside and spotted the yellow polo (good thing he gave me his shirt color) and tapped him on the shoulder. Since this was my first date with eHarmony I wasn’t sure if this guy was going to look anything like his picture, I think I fed into the rumors that people look nothing like what they do in their profile pictures. But, I was pleasantly surprised that he looked the same- although I have to say he looked like his third or fourth picture. No judgment on my part though, I mean my profile picture is the best out of the three pictures I posted of myself.
I think I thought the initial meeting would be awkward, but not at all…relieved! We sat and made quick small talk before I dived into my heating questions- how long had he been on eHarmony. Maybe I should take a step back and give you a little more info on this guy, he’s 31 and from an area jest west of where I live. He said he had been on eHarmony for about six months and said he was over meeting girls in bars. Okay, I can totally appreciate that, I feel the same way.

We started talking and I kid you not within like the first 15 minutes of our conversation he comes out with the fact that he’s on a 600-700 calorie diet. REALLY…I mean by no means would I call this guy fit or trim for that matter. I do want you to know though that I don’t think he kept the 600 calorie that night. The beers alone probably equated to more than 600 calories I'm guessing. He said he was doing it to drop weight quick, okay buddy not sure if this would be the best approach and I hate to say I'm not sure it was working for him.

I won't go into any more detail on this date, I feel like you understand where this date is heading. He was my trial date the rest will get easier, but now atleast I have one underneath my belt.

I give him a side guy and say something like thanks I had a good time and then I'm on my way. He says he'll give me a call, but I try to just start walking to my car.

Date Night

After my first week I scored my first date! This guy was quick. So, like I explained before there are four parts of communication with eHarmony. This guy asked me questions and then jumped straight to the email. To be honest with you I thought it was a little quick, but I gave him props for taking the ball and literally running with it. Definitely get to know a guys personality type through how he decides to communicate. I mean I have one guy who has sent me more emails that I think I’m going through writer’s block trying to figure out my next question to him and then I have this guy we’ll call him S that wastes no time at all.

He emailed me that we would be meeting at this local taco place at 6 p.m. Here it goes…for those of you who don’t know me well, know that what I’m doing is a major step out of my comfort zone. I try to challenge myself and do things to keep me on my toes, but as I’m writing this I will have you know that extreme butterflies in my stomach feel like they have taken over me. The day before I went out and bought a new shirt to wear. I needed something to give me a little confidence; I bought a cute tank with gems at the neck line and paired it with some jeans and gold jewelry along with some wedges from Ralph Lauren. Let me tell you, I was feeling good! I didn’t have that much time before the date because I got off of work late, so I did a touch up, changed and headed over to dinner.

Monday, July 26, 2010

My New Hobby

Okay I have a new hobby…ready to guess? After coming home from work, working out and eating dinner I get on eHarmony and check my new matches for the day. I have to say this whole thing has given me a major confidence booster. I mean to have six new matches of potential dates? It’s a little bit of a rush…just being honest. For those of you not familiar with the process there are four rounds of communication. The first round is a set of pre-fixed multiple choice questions then must haves and can’t stands, open ended questions and eHarmony mail. At any time though you can jump straight to the mail if you want to  avoid one of the rounds. I love getting little messages with Congrats M* has asked for communication with you. I mean seriously after a bad day sometimes that’s all you need to feel better. Well, let me take a step back and say depending on what the guy looks like and what he’s passionate about that’s another story. But any way you look at it…it’s quite a flattering deal.

It’s Raining Men

They were not lying at approximately 9:30 a.m. a feed of matches come to my inbox. Seriously, I have never seen this many potentials at one time. I feel like I’m on the Bachelorette. It has easily become the highlight of my morning. I log in to my gmail account and they are just waiting for me to click on their profile. The matches I receive though are hit or miss, but I guess that just shows that there is someone for everyone, right?

One thing that cracks me up though is that I do realize that guys have pictures with women that may not be the most appropriate, but you would think that they would use discretion when deciding which picture they put on their profile to attract someone. Well, I don't think some guys think through this all the way because I definitely got a match and the third picture on his profile is him with two women in fishnets with their legs up and he's smiling in the center. I mean really? If that's his way of saying I know I'm still single, but I'm a good time...he should've stayed with those two women that night because I think anyone women that had seen the picture would 'Close Match.' 

Lesson learned...never go for a guy that posts pictures with women in fishnets on his profile, makes references to his car being his baby and for that matter states that he needs his space every morning to work on his car....ummm no thank you. I'm on to look at my next matches!

Stepping Outside the Dating Box

Okay, so after my mom and sister helped me fill out the questionnaires and I send over my credit card number the match was on. Yes, you read that sister and mom helped me with the process, sometimes you just need a good support system and I think they thought that if they weren’t there I wouldn’t go through with it. Well, it has been a month and I’m happy to report that I have stuck with it. So back to day one, the first feed of men came in my email inbox right away. Wow, I like how this all works out! I opened the first profile and you wouldn’t believe it…they matched me with a guy I had been on several dates with last year, but it just didn’t work out. I mean seriously in the whole scheme of things it wasn’t that big of a deal, but as one of my first matches I was in shock. One because after filling out all of that info I was tired and basically wanted the man of my dreams to be in my inbox just waiting for me to click on his profile. It wasn’t and although this guy was nice we just weren’t compatible. We went on two dates and for the second date I had to come up with a list of things to talk about because he wasn’t much of a talker. Then the second guys profile was this guy I had seen before and the third a 23 year old. I mean he’s just a baby and my brother’s age which would be just too weird. After I get myself together and give myself a little pep talk to get back in the game and not be on the phone with a customer service rep from eHarmony wanting to get off I get a phone call from my sister…yes she hightailed it out of there right after I hit sent. She was like the guy you did go out on a date, although not your type, clearly a nice guy which he was so she was like if anything it should make you feel better knowing that other decent guys are probably on this thing too. She’s right…and so the beat goes on.

I'm back!

Sorry for being on a hiatus for several months. I bet you’re wondering if I met the man of my dreams and decided to stop my blog. Nope, I’m still here…single, if only it was that easy! I have been trying to be proactive on the dating front though. I have decided to entrust the good people at eHarmony to see if they can find a compatible match for me. I looked into another dating service and it just seemed a bit too pricey for my liking and more geared towards an older crowd. And, just after hearing that Match is more for hookups I thought that eHarmony may be a safer bet. And, I would believe so…the process was long and detailed which I liked because they were all about compatilbility questions and what you’re looking for in a mate. So, just my two cents, if anyone were looking for a quick hookup on eHarmony I would be surprised because throughout the course of the night I’m not going to lie I wanted to quit several times. I held strong though, but at the time I think it was because my sister said she wouldn’t leave unless I sent the send key. Very glad I did though. If anything this is definitely an adventure. I mean after thinking about it I could meet a guy anywhere eHarmony or not, so why not just expand my pool. I know I have a lot of catching up to do so bear with me as I get through the last several weeks. And so the journey begins…..