My New Hobby

Okay I have a new hobby…ready to guess? After coming home from work, working out and eating dinner I get on eHarmony and check my new matches for the day. I have to say this whole thing has given me a major confidence booster. I mean to have six new matches of potential dates? It’s a little bit of a rush…just being honest. For those of you not familiar with the process there are four rounds of communication. The first round is a set of pre-fixed multiple choice questions then must haves and can’t stands, open ended questions and eHarmony mail. At any time though you can jump straight to the mail if you want to  avoid one of the rounds. I love getting little messages with Congrats M* has asked for communication with you. I mean seriously after a bad day sometimes that’s all you need to feel better. Well, let me take a step back and say depending on what the guy looks like and what he’s passionate about that’s another story. But any way you look at it…it’s quite a flattering deal.

It’s Raining Men

They were not lying at approximately 9:30 a.m. a feed of matches come to my inbox. Seriously, I have never seen this many potentials at one time. I feel like I’m on the Bachelorette. It has easily become the highlight of my morning. I log in to my gmail account and they are just waiting for me to click on their profile. The matches I receive though are hit or miss, but I guess that just shows that there is someone for everyone, right?

One thing that cracks me up though is that I do realize that guys have pictures with women that may not be the most appropriate, but you would think that they would use discretion when deciding which picture they put on their profile to attract someone. Well, I don't think some guys think through this all the way because I definitely got a match and the third picture on his profile is him with two women in fishnets with their legs up and he's smiling in the center. I mean really? If that's his way of saying I know I'm still single, but I'm a good time...he should've stayed with those two women that night because I think anyone women that had seen the picture would 'Close Match.' 

Lesson learned...never go for a guy that posts pictures with women in fishnets on his profile, makes references to his car being his baby and for that matter states that he needs his space every morning to work on his car....ummm no thank you. I'm on to look at my next matches!

Stepping Outside the Dating Box

Okay, so after my mom and sister helped me fill out the questionnaires and I send over my credit card number the match was on. Yes, you read that right...my sister and mom helped me with the process, sometimes you just need a good support system and I think they thought that if they weren’t there I wouldn’t go through with it. Well, it has been a month and I’m happy to report that I have stuck with it. So back to day one, the first feed of men came in my email inbox right away. Wow, I like how this all works out! I opened the first profile and you wouldn’t believe it…they matched me with a guy I had been on several dates with last year, but it just didn’t work out. I mean seriously in the whole scheme of things it wasn’t that big of a deal, but as one of my first matches I was in shock. One because after filling out all of that info I was tired and basically wanted the man of my dreams to be in my inbox just waiting for me to click on his profile. It wasn’t and although this guy was nice we just weren’t compatible. We went on two dates and for the second date I had to come up with a list of things to talk about because he wasn’t much of a talker. Then the second guys profile was this guy I had seen before and the third a 23 year old. I mean he’s just a baby and my brother’s age which would be just too weird. After I get myself together and give myself a little pep talk to get back in the game and not be on the phone with a customer service rep from eHarmony wanting to get off I get a phone call from my sister…yes she hightailed it out of there right after I hit sent. She was like the guy you did go out on a date, although not your type, clearly a nice guy which he was so she was like if anything it should make you feel better knowing that other decent guys are probably on this thing too. She’s right…and so the beat goes on.

I'm back!

Sorry for being on a hiatus for several months. I bet you’re wondering if I met the man of my dreams and decided to stop my blog. Nope, I’m still here…single, if only it was that easy! I have been trying to be proactive on the dating front though. I have decided to entrust the good people at eHarmony to see if they can find a compatible match for me. I looked into another dating service and it just seemed a bit too pricey for my liking and more geared towards an older crowd. And, just after hearing that Match is more for hookups I thought that eHarmony may be a safer bet. And, I would believe so…the process was long and detailed which I liked because they were all about compatilbility questions and what you’re looking for in a mate. So, just my two cents, if anyone were looking for a quick hookup on eHarmony I would be surprised because throughout the course of the night I’m not going to lie I wanted to quit several times. I held strong though, but at the time I think it was because my sister said she wouldn’t leave unless I sent the send key. Very glad I did though. If anything this is definitely an adventure. I mean after thinking about it I could meet a guy anywhere eHarmony or not, so why not just expand my pool. I know I have a lot of catching up to do so bear with me as I get through the last several weeks. And so the journey begins…..

Dating Skills

Do you ever get the feeling that dating can be like a full time job? I mean you have to keep up your game or else you lose your skill.

Taken

So, I told you all that I live in basically the burbs and this is why I feel like every guy in my apartment complex is taken. Now I know I could be jumping to conclusions, but seriously every decent looking guy that I have seen has ended up having a girlfriend! And I don't want to come off as the creeper person that tries to make conversation and then his girlfriend comes around the corner...not good! I guess I knew what I was getting into...I mean it all came clear not many single guys want to move to the burbs at the age of 26!

Way to Make an Impression

Lately, I just feel like I'm spinning tires and not getting anywhere. I mean I feel like I'm moving, but without any progress, sleeping in, forgetting things...what gives? I'm in a serious need of a vaca! Thankfully a beach trip is headed my way in less than two weeks!

There was a point to my above note in moving and not making any progress in that I had overslept on Friday till 8 AM! Mind you I have to be at work at 8:30 AM and I was leaving work early in the afternoon for a community service event, which meant that I had to get all of my work done in a half day. So this is the start to my Friday....

Luckily, the outfit was a no brainer. We are required to wear our company community service t-shirts to our volunteer event, so I was basically set to go in no time. I hop in my car and get ready to head to work when I realize that I had forgotten my banana on the counter and as I contemplated forgoing the banana I figured what would another minute be if I was already running late.

I decided to make a run for my apartment door not sure why I think I thought I would be saving time. I park in a parking deck and most of the cars were already gone so I was running over the empty parking spots. Well as I am in mid stride this silver truck comes around the corner and is trying to park in one of the spots that I'm running across (I know not a very classy move on my part- definitely not cool, calm and collected). So, I try to move out of his way and he gives me the go ahead to continue over his spot, probably for the shear joy in seeing me make a FOOL of myself as I'm running across the parking deck in my neon company community servicee shirt...ahhh the visual was probably making his morning, because I probably looked like a spaz!

Well, good news I got my banana and was making my way back to my car...I decide that may be power walking would be better than a full on sprint at this point. I was hoping to not run into the guy on my way back, but because of my record timing I pass him as he's coming in the entrance to our apartments. And he was so cute! Why is it that whenever you don't want the guy to be cute he is! I gave him a little smile and said, "sorry about that." He was like, "no problem." So, first impression with the cute guy in my apartment complex neon t-shirt girl sprinting and all for a banana!

With that I'm off to sleep.